On my journey to embody family wellness I feel like what is currently big for me is remaining calm (trying my best 😬). Remaining calm within my body… feeling at ease, and remaining calm whilst in the midst of stressful moments with the kids.
But how do we do this??? This is an ongoing practise for me. Less stress = More calm.
I feel there are layers to combating stress because that’s what will help us feel more calm.
-The outer layer is the easy stuff like having enough sleep, food and water.
-Then below that, you have things you have to make a conscious effort at, like deep, slow breathing and exercise, both vigorous and calming (yoga/ meditation). Spending time doing things you enjoy, like being in nature.
-Now we’re into the gritty stuff, the stuff that requires real thought and reflection…
- What is triggering your stress in this situation??
For example I am frustrated at the kids for taking so long and I’m loosing it with them but deep down if I think about it I am feeling guilty because I haven’t done enough to prepare and I myself still have things to do and this realisation is stressing me out. Or another example is getting angry at a child when they’re acting out in a shop because you are (feeling self-conscious) and more worried about what onlookers might be thinking.
- Are you really being present?
My number 2 doesn’t have a lot of patience (which is normal for a child but number one was far more forgiving). So when she says ‘Mum, look at my picture’ once or twice but I’m too caught up in my thoughts or what I’m doing and I hear it but it doesn’t quite register. She then says it again and again without a break, yelling at me- I then snap back ‘what!’ and I’m frustrated at her for yelling at me, even though it was my fault for not being more present and out of my own thoughts.
Being present and understanding what is triggering our stress responses are valuable tools in staying calm.
It is vital to then recover from these behaviours – for my first example: “Sorry I yelled, I’ve realised how many things I still need to do”. When you realise what you’re doing it does make it easier to try and get a grip on it.
If there are layers to stress I believe there are layers to healing as well.
Perhaps your body is feeling stressed because of a poor diet and gut issues. Perhaps your body is full of toxins. Healing these things through dietary changes and detoxification will help resolve some stress.
Perhaps your body is feeling stressed because it is out of whack and you need to see a chiropractor or physiotherapist.
Perhaps your body is feeling stressed because you are carrying emotional burdens. Seek help, talking to friends, family or even professionals will help resolve some of the stress.
(Brain Gym and the educational kinesiology practises are able to assist in identifying and resolving all of the above stressors and I would be more than happy to work with you- so get in touch if this interests you).
What are you doing to heal? Time for yourself? Massage? 💆♀️ Talking to a psychologist? Time outdoors? 🌿
If EVERY BODY (man and woman) were taking ongoing steps to heal I believe the world would be a much happier place. We would feel less stressed and the children in our world would also be much happier and at ease.